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LIFE COACHING

Life Coach

"Each person holds so much power within themselves that needs to be let out. Sometimes they just need a little nudge, a little direction, a little support, a little coaching, and the greatest things can happen."
Pete Carroll

The best way that I can describe coaching is, if you are a sports person you will need a coach to either learn a sports skill or improve your skill.

If you are not a sports person, then you may be looking for a coach
- Following a major life event (to put life back together)
- A habit change, example healthy eating
- Personal or professional goals

Using my above examples, I will explain…

Following a life event (putting life back together):-

In life we may come across times of loss, tragedy or change. Has something in your life caused you to look at everything in a whole new perspective? Does the “old” way seem pointless, or even ridiculous? This is quite normal, after a life event, our priorities change. A life coach assists in getting everything back into “normal” life, organising, setting goals and helping to make sense of the “new” you.

The outcome of a life event, after the event, is putting everything back, and this is sometimes oversimplified, mainly because many do not understand what it means. You are not the same person, and your perspectives are not always the same. First learning about you, who this person is, really starts a journey of learning and sorting the real things out in life.

A habit change for example healthy eating:-

First, we would need to look at the current eating situation, and then at what is desired. We will then assess how the current and desired situations could be merged using goals to move the person into the desired behaviour. This may sound fairly simple, but what catches most people is relapsing.

This happens when emotions, behaviours or habits result in the person reverting to the previous behaviour. When these hurdles are faced - to prevent relapsing, support is required to assist with the cognitive reshuffling and emotional understanding. For more information look at:- What does it mean to make a change?

Personal and professional goals:-

Sometimes, we reach a point in our life when we have done what we have wanted to, for example got married, got children, got a career, got a house or car, and we think, what now? Is that all it is about? Here is where some people will have “mid-life crisis”, while others will hold that thought for the moment, and look for satisfaction and growth.

If you already have goals in mind, you will need to laying out a plan to achieve the goal. If you are not sure of your goals, the first steps are asking, who am I, what do I like, what do I dislike? If I were to ask you, are you an organiser or an hypothosiser, would you be able to fluently answer why? Once a goal is decided, it will mean planning and organising around achieving the goal successfully, sorting out and planning for all the bits in the middle, that could demotivate or cause you to lose interest

Using the SMART or GROW methodology, a course for the goal is discussed, planned, laid out, but also supported during the shift over, to iron out any problems during the transition.

SMART = Specific - Measurable - Agreed upon – Realistic – Time based

GROW = Goal – Reality – Options – Way forward

I have found that each individual is different, where some people will have a few discussion others will need more. Some people go through transition smoothly and others have blocks, for example emotions, that are preventing them from proceeding, and thus need to be cleared before they can move forward.

Throughout the processes, whichever direction, we have reflection sessions, to see if we are going in the desired direction and if there is anything that has changed or possibly even needs to be altered so there is no relapse back to the undesired situation, but also no excuse to just give up and take the easy way out.